Found out wife cheated on me. What can I ask of her?

Well if you have your first counseling session coming up then that is good. You need to deal with her lack of integrity and committment in this counseling session. If you are willing to work on a marriage then she needs to know what that actually means. She is extremely selfish and didn't think about you or how this would affect you at all, she needs counseling so this is a good step.